as a 25-year-old dreamer, i have a lot of expectations to myself. i used to admire women who are so into their careers. i truly admire those women who are independent and mature. that's what i call "total woman". she knows herself very well, she's very organize and passionate with and every move she does and she plans her future as if she's born with a tag of mission on her forehead. 10 years ago, i wanted to be like this. i thought it would be as easy as counting 1, 2, 3 or singing do-re-mi. but, i was totally wrong.
10 years after, i'm still the same little kiddo. My dreams of seeing myself a "total woman" is far from camaraderie. why at this point of my life where i should be partying with friends, shopping profusely, etc. i'm totally still a girl. bad notion about myself, a little boy inside of me.
Thursday, June 28, 2007
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
Self-hypnotism
A Brief Guide To Self Hypnosis
Prepare the Environment: Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed; no telephone or other interruptions. As you practice, you'll be able to do this in any environment, but when you're beginning, find as quiet as place as possible. You can do this in bed as you're falling asleep at night.
Prepare Yourself: Tell yourself silently or out loud that you are going to do self hypnosis. Then tell yourself silently or out loud how long you want to remain in the trance. Fifteen to twenty minutes is fine to begin with however, after a few weeks practise you may decide to make it last longer. For longer sessions, be sitting up as you practice, otherwise you may fall asleep.
Relax Your Body: Take several deep, slow breaths. This type of breathing slows down the brain waves and automatically begins relaxing the body. As you breathe out imagine you are breathing away any nervous tension left in your body. Make sure you breathe diaphragmatically, so as you breathe in your stomach goes out, and as you breathe out your stomach goes in. You can also say the word Relax on every out breath if you wish. Continue this breathing pattern until you feel relaxed and ready to stop.
Relax Your Mind: Distracting thoughts may come into your mind, allow them to float right out again without following them. Focus on your breathing or your relaxing body; hypnosis is all about heightened concentration, focus, and relaxation. Keep your mind on what you're doing.
Test Yourself: Bring your attention to your closed eyelids. Relax those muscles so completely that you couldn't possibly relax them any more. Your muscles must do what your mind instructs, so tell yourself that your eyelids are so relaxed that even if you try to open them, they just won't move. Test yourself to make sure you cannot open your eyes (of course you'll be able to open them at any time, and you'll know that on a conscious level, but allowing your conscious mind to accept the suggestion that your eyelids are too relaxed to work is the gateway to hypnosis and the subconscious mind).
Go Deeper: When you pass the "eye test," you are in light trance state. Silently and slowly count from 10 down to 1, imagining that your body and mind become more and more relaxed with each number. You may visualize yourself going down a staircase with each number, or on an elevator or escalator going down.
Give Yourself Suggestions: Now is the time to give yourself some positive suggestions or affirmations. You may decide the wording before you start or just have a very relaxed conversation with yourself; just make sure they all relate to one chosen goal at a time. Silently repeat the suggestions over and over, being very direct, brief and positive. Work on one goal at a time , over about 3 weeks.Always state suggestions as if they are a reality and in the present. This is very important as your subconscious mind believes exactly what it is told. Accentuate the positive
Do NOT say: "I want to be confident."DO say: "I am a very confident person.
Do NOT say: "I don't want to be shy."DO say: "I am always confident in the company of other people.You may boost the effectiveness of your sessions by creating images in your imagination of you at your goal, while you repeat the suggestions. For instance, if your goal is to lose weight, visualize yourself at your goal weight, in as much detail as possible. Remember, your unconscious mind cannot differentiate between what is real and what is imagined, so the more you imagine a positive future situation or event the more you compound your inner belief that you are calm, confident and in control in these situations.
End Your Session: When you feel its time to end, slowly and mentally count up from 1 to 5. When you reach the number 5 your eyes will open and you will be wide awake with a feeling of well being all over. However if you practise before going to sleep do not count up from 1 to 5, tell yourself beforehand that it will turn into a natural deep sleep from which you will wake up in the morning feeling positive and refreshed.
Don't worry if you try self hypnosis and don't think much happened at first or you could not see much in the visualization. Suggestion are effective even in the lightest of trances, so you will see changes soon. Repetition is the key to getting a new pattern into the subconscious mind, so keep at it! We all get better with practice, and before long you'll see just how easy and empowering it is to create the life, body, and bank account you want!
*Adapted from Glenn Harrold M.B.S.C.H Dip C.H
Prepare the Environment: Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed; no telephone or other interruptions. As you practice, you'll be able to do this in any environment, but when you're beginning, find as quiet as place as possible. You can do this in bed as you're falling asleep at night.
Prepare Yourself: Tell yourself silently or out loud that you are going to do self hypnosis. Then tell yourself silently or out loud how long you want to remain in the trance. Fifteen to twenty minutes is fine to begin with however, after a few weeks practise you may decide to make it last longer. For longer sessions, be sitting up as you practice, otherwise you may fall asleep.
Relax Your Body: Take several deep, slow breaths. This type of breathing slows down the brain waves and automatically begins relaxing the body. As you breathe out imagine you are breathing away any nervous tension left in your body. Make sure you breathe diaphragmatically, so as you breathe in your stomach goes out, and as you breathe out your stomach goes in. You can also say the word Relax on every out breath if you wish. Continue this breathing pattern until you feel relaxed and ready to stop.
Relax Your Mind: Distracting thoughts may come into your mind, allow them to float right out again without following them. Focus on your breathing or your relaxing body; hypnosis is all about heightened concentration, focus, and relaxation. Keep your mind on what you're doing.
Test Yourself: Bring your attention to your closed eyelids. Relax those muscles so completely that you couldn't possibly relax them any more. Your muscles must do what your mind instructs, so tell yourself that your eyelids are so relaxed that even if you try to open them, they just won't move. Test yourself to make sure you cannot open your eyes (of course you'll be able to open them at any time, and you'll know that on a conscious level, but allowing your conscious mind to accept the suggestion that your eyelids are too relaxed to work is the gateway to hypnosis and the subconscious mind).
Go Deeper: When you pass the "eye test," you are in light trance state. Silently and slowly count from 10 down to 1, imagining that your body and mind become more and more relaxed with each number. You may visualize yourself going down a staircase with each number, or on an elevator or escalator going down.
Give Yourself Suggestions: Now is the time to give yourself some positive suggestions or affirmations. You may decide the wording before you start or just have a very relaxed conversation with yourself; just make sure they all relate to one chosen goal at a time. Silently repeat the suggestions over and over, being very direct, brief and positive. Work on one goal at a time , over about 3 weeks.Always state suggestions as if they are a reality and in the present. This is very important as your subconscious mind believes exactly what it is told. Accentuate the positive
Do NOT say: "I want to be confident."DO say: "I am a very confident person.
Do NOT say: "I don't want to be shy."DO say: "I am always confident in the company of other people.You may boost the effectiveness of your sessions by creating images in your imagination of you at your goal, while you repeat the suggestions. For instance, if your goal is to lose weight, visualize yourself at your goal weight, in as much detail as possible. Remember, your unconscious mind cannot differentiate between what is real and what is imagined, so the more you imagine a positive future situation or event the more you compound your inner belief that you are calm, confident and in control in these situations.
End Your Session: When you feel its time to end, slowly and mentally count up from 1 to 5. When you reach the number 5 your eyes will open and you will be wide awake with a feeling of well being all over. However if you practise before going to sleep do not count up from 1 to 5, tell yourself beforehand that it will turn into a natural deep sleep from which you will wake up in the morning feeling positive and refreshed.
Don't worry if you try self hypnosis and don't think much happened at first or you could not see much in the visualization. Suggestion are effective even in the lightest of trances, so you will see changes soon. Repetition is the key to getting a new pattern into the subconscious mind, so keep at it! We all get better with practice, and before long you'll see just how easy and empowering it is to create the life, body, and bank account you want!
*Adapted from Glenn Harrold M.B.S.C.H Dip C.H
Saturday, June 16, 2007
how to let go of you
Catch me I'm Fallin by Toni G.
I don’t know why
But when I look in your eyes
I feel something that seem so right
You’ve got yours I’ve got mine
I think I’m loosing my mind
Cause I shouldn’t feel this way
Catch me I’m falling for you
And I don’t know what to do
How can something so wrong
Feel so right all along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can time be so wrong
For love to come along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can love let it grow
When it has no place to go
And I can't go along pretending
That love is in here to stay
Catch me I'm falling for you
If I could just walk away
Without you from day to day
I would die just thinkin' of you
I know we can never be
More than friends you and me
But why do I feel this way?
Catch I'm fallin' for you
And I don't know what to do
How can something so wrong
Feel so right all along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can time be so wrong
For love to come along
Catch me I’m falling for you
Maybe someday I’ll see
Why love did this to me
Coz I can’t go along pretending
That love is in here to stay
Catch me I'm falling for you
Catch me I'm falling for you
And its wrong for me to feel this way
Coz I don't know what to do without you
I'm falling for you
Catch me I’m falling for you
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can something so wrong
Feel so right all along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can i let go of this love where it has no place to go
I don’t know why
But when I look in your eyes
I feel something that seem so right
You’ve got yours I’ve got mine
I think I’m loosing my mind
Cause I shouldn’t feel this way
Catch me I’m falling for you
And I don’t know what to do
How can something so wrong
Feel so right all along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can time be so wrong
For love to come along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can love let it grow
When it has no place to go
And I can't go along pretending
That love is in here to stay
Catch me I'm falling for you
If I could just walk away
Without you from day to day
I would die just thinkin' of you
I know we can never be
More than friends you and me
But why do I feel this way?
Catch I'm fallin' for you
And I don't know what to do
How can something so wrong
Feel so right all along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can time be so wrong
For love to come along
Catch me I’m falling for you
Maybe someday I’ll see
Why love did this to me
Coz I can’t go along pretending
That love is in here to stay
Catch me I'm falling for you
Catch me I'm falling for you
And its wrong for me to feel this way
Coz I don't know what to do without you
I'm falling for you
Catch me I’m falling for you
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can something so wrong
Feel so right all along
Catch me I’m falling for you
How can i let go of this love where it has no place to go
Monday, May 14, 2007
don't wanna lose you now
Artist:
Gloria Estefan
Album:
cut both ways
Title:
don't wanna lose you
Sometimes it's hard to make things clearOr know when to face the truthAnd I know that the moment is hereI'll open my heart and show you insideMy love has no prideI feel with you I've got nothing to hideSo open your eyes and see who I amAnd not who you want for me to beI am only myself, myselfI don't wanna lose you nowWe're gonna get through somehowI don't wanna lose you now or ever'Cause baby, I've finally foundThe courage to stand my groundBut if you want meI'll be around, ForeverWe all make mistakes, We all lose our wayBut we stood the test of time and I hopeThat's the way it will stayIt's all up to you to tell me to go'Cause it won't be me to walk awayWhen you're all that I knowAnd I know thatI don't wanna lose you nowWe're gonna get through somehowI don't wanna lose you now or ever'Cause baby, I've finally foundThe courage to stand my groundBut if you want meI'll be around, Forever
Gloria Estefan
Album:
cut both ways
Title:
don't wanna lose you
Sometimes it's hard to make things clearOr know when to face the truthAnd I know that the moment is hereI'll open my heart and show you insideMy love has no prideI feel with you I've got nothing to hideSo open your eyes and see who I amAnd not who you want for me to beI am only myself, myselfI don't wanna lose you nowWe're gonna get through somehowI don't wanna lose you now or ever'Cause baby, I've finally foundThe courage to stand my groundBut if you want meI'll be around, ForeverWe all make mistakes, We all lose our wayBut we stood the test of time and I hopeThat's the way it will stayIt's all up to you to tell me to go'Cause it won't be me to walk awayWhen you're all that I knowAnd I know thatI don't wanna lose you nowWe're gonna get through somehowI don't wanna lose you now or ever'Cause baby, I've finally foundThe courage to stand my groundBut if you want meI'll be around, Forever
Tuesday, May 8, 2007
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